Rabbi Shoshana's Blog

What is Equalizing? And what's the difference between equalizing and abuse?

Equalizing refers to a PDAer exerting power, control, or status in order to regain a sense of nervous system safety after a perceived loss of control or social equality/status. For some PDAers it is more disabling than demand avoidance. (I'm one of those people!)

Dec 4, 202511 min read

Child upset with head on crossed arms, resting on knees

Consent is not just for sex: Honoring the body's NO in daily life

Consent is not just for sex: Honoring the body's NO in daily life. For Autistic children and all of us.

Nov 7, 20254 min read

Child safely expressing PDA threat response by hitting an adult with a pillow

How do we safely move the PDA threat response through the body for PDA kids and adults?

Children and adults with PDA often experience intense emotional responses that overwhelm their nervous systems. These responses — fight,...

Jul 9, 20256 min read