Rabbi Shoshana's Blog

Equalizing refers to a PDAer exerting power, control, or status in order to regain a sense of nervous system safety after a perceived loss of control or social equality/status. For some PDAers it is more disabling than demand avoidance. (I'm one of those people!)

Consent is not just for sex: Honoring the body's NO in daily life. For Autistic children and all of us.

How can I gauge if a provider is neurodiversity-affirming?

In early September 2023, as the New England air cooled and yellow leaves started fluttering down, I felt deeply sad. My PDA son had burnt...

Children and adults with PDA often experience intense emotional responses that overwhelm their nervous systems. These responses — fight,...

When my son stopped being able to attend school and we started accommodating PDA, his manic dysregulation episodes got fewer and less intense, until about a year ago they essentially stopped all together.

Mother's Day Reflections on PDA Parenting

Healthy grieving is part of a neurodivergent-affirming life.

A guide to supporting PDAers in meltdowns.

How can we support PDA people through transitions? How can we best think about this challenge?

Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD) is a controversial diagnosis with racialized diagnostic criteria.

The story behind The PDA Safe Circle™ Community Guidelines. Check out our Guidelines!

Written by Rabbi Shoshana Meira Friedman, PDA Coach Kory Andreas, LCSW-C Jenna Goldstein, Psychologist Who wrote this list? We are a PDA...

by Rabbi Shoshana Meira Friedman How can we drop demands & offer autonomy, control, and social equality in a medical setting? How can we...

by Rabbi Shoshana Meira Friedman #1: Grandiosity is a thing and I can let it go. Before I knew I was Autistic, I felt personally...