Rabbi Shoshana's Blog

PDA burnout is an intense contraction of the safe circle that lasts for a long time. When we or a child is in burnout, we long for it to end. But burnout is complex, and sometimes we need to play detective to understand what is going on to support recovery. Here are 5 reasons your child or teen are still in burnout and how you can help.

For PDAers to be able to meet our needs and thrive, we need to feel SAFE in bodies that are wired with a hyperactive threat response. So it's great if we can find a drug or combination of drugs that lower our inner experience of threat response – which is a felt sense of anxiety in the body.

Boundaries are one of the single most perplexing concepts when supporting a PDAer, especially a child or teen. This article focuses on supporting parents of PDAers with understanding and setting boundaries.

Equalizing refers to a PDAer exerting power, control, or status in order to regain a sense of nervous system safety after a perceived loss of control or social equality/status. For some PDAers it is more disabling than demand avoidance. (I'm one of those people!)