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What is Equalizing? And what's the difference between equalizing and abuse?
Equalizing refers to a PDAer exerting power, control, or status in order to regain a sense of nervous system safety after a perceived loss of control or social equality/status. For some PDAers it is more disabling than demand avoidance. (I'm one of those people!)
Dec 4, 202511 min read
How 'high status' roles can help with PDA Autistic social anxiety
Learn how high status social roles can help PDA Autistics participate in social activities.
Jun 30, 20245 min read
20 simple ways PDA kids & teens can safely feel in charge of their adult
20 simple ways PDA kids & teens can safely feel in charge of their adult. Healthy equalizing helps PDA kids & teens feel safe.
May 3, 20246 min read
Can PDA Kids Love School? Yes - I did. But the conditions were particular.
My child and I are both Autistic and PDA. PDA stands for Pathological Demand Avoidance, or Pervasive Drive for Autonomy. Understanding of...
Apr 3, 20245 min read
Internalized v Externalized PDA
by Rabbi Shoshana Meira Friedman That's funny... you don't look PDA! My son & I are both Autistic with a PDA profile. PDA =Pervasive...
Feb 16, 20242 min read
How do internalized PDA'ers assert control or "equalize"?
by Rabbi Shoshana Meira Friedman I am what is known in the PDA community as an internalized PDAer. In this post, I explain what that...
Feb 16, 20245 min read
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